Why are most of us drawn to find a mate? Is it just nature, or it there something more? Moreover, why are we obsessed with finding our true soul mate? Is it the thrill of the hunt? Curiosity? Or is there a genuine desire to hold onto that special gift which may be bestowed upon us one day, our true other half?
In the whole scheme of things, there is so much more (the unseen) that comprises our universe on all levels; what is most important to grasp, is that we are all from the One, Primal Source Energy, or God; this is also known as the Universal Soul, whose body is Light, or God's first begotten. The bible states, "And from the Light all things come forth." This could imply that individual souls came forth from the Light in a Higher Spiritual Realm before manifesting into physical form. To manifest as individualized expressions of God doing God's Will, each soul had to divide into male and female energy, in order to also give the illusion of separateness. At the same time, these energies could also become not only divided as male and female, but various combinations thereof, which manifest as transgendered, bisexual, etc. Though separated, the energies still hold onto common energy attraction, having originally come from the One. Thus, the eternal search to find one's Soul (or Spiritual) Mate, separated at spiritual birth, so-to-speak.
Throughout the various incarnations/lifetimes, the souls get more and more separated, however, on the rare occasion, they actually reunite, either on a physical plane, or on a heavenly/non-physical level/plane of existence, between lifetimes.
How does one recognize one's true spiritual/soul mate? For one thing, there is a general feeling of familiarity, but this could be because of their souls intermingling out of the host-bodies during sleep; it could be they met already on a non-physical level (or even on a physical level) in previous lifetimes, but did not recognize each other and therefore did not follow up on this, so on some level, they are remembering each other from previous physical incarnations. Besides the unreliable feeling of familiarity, there is also an uncanny sharing of values, lifestyle, and even similar physical appearance! They may also share the same spiritual outlook and values. This is because they are both originally from the same soul.
The urge to love one another and to engage in sex is really the unconscious urge to reunite with one's other half (literally) on a physical, mental, and spiritual level. But does this mean that they will stay together?
Acknowledging that they are soul mates, they must also agree to stay together in some sort of committed relationship, despite any earthly situations that may come along to challenge their spiritual bliss. If one or both do not have this commitment, (taking into account any karmic and personal ego-will issues as well) they may choose to separate, and/or move on to other relationships. A soul mate relationship does not guarantee longevity, but the awareness of it and the understanding of the rarity of this could promote a greater commitment between the two parties.
Regardless, the soul mate relationship could manifest from lifetime to lifetime, with both parties aware of it or not, and choosing to stay united or not.